Anukriti Mehta is a 26 year old woman from Bangalore. Her life suddenly took a wild turn when her husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
The couple tried all they could but nothing worked. No amount of chemotherapy could save her childhood sweetheart and the doctors finally announced that the duo have only one month left to live it all.
Though she did not know how to cope up with the devastating news Anukriti was well aware of the fact that time was going by fast. She took it to vent it all out on Reddit’s relationship community.
She also asked the fellow Redditors for suggestions on how to make the following days more special for her partner..
‘I am here looking for suggestions to make this time count for him and for us’ she asked.
Redditors poured it all out to help Anurkriti to the best they can. Here is what some redditors had to say:
‘I’ll keep it short. I married my childhood sweetheart, the only man I’ve ever loved and it’s been a wonderful year. He got diagnosed with cancer recently. At first we were hopeful and started his treatment. He didn’t respond to it and it continued spreading, apparently at a very fast pace. It reached a point where the doctors recommended to stop chemo as it was not proving to be useful. The surgeons refuse to attempt removal as it’s almost certain death. We’ve got a second, third, fourth, millionth opinion.
We accept it now. He has less than a month. I am here looking for suggestions to make this time count for him and for us. He’s weak but is able to do his day to day activities independently, thanks to medications for some ugly symptoms. However, I need suggestions that aren’t strenuous and preferably indoor activities. How do I live (not survive) the last days?’ she posted.
The Redditors offered their condolences, poured out emotions, shared anecdotes, offered advices and shared with her things they wish they had done with their loved ones previously.
It’s an understatement to state that those words had the power to move mountains.
So to make the last month count, she spent a lot of time in her husband’s arms and also engaged in the following,
1). She captured a lot of memories of him.
I clicked pictures of him in the middle of ordinary acts—tying his shoelaces, making himself eggs (the only thing he could cook), cleaning his laptop, and just snoring away next to me. Since I couldn’t freeze time, this was the closest I could manage, she stated.
2). Discussed her future with him.
She wrote ‘As much as one would want to avoid thinking about a life beyond the one they love the most, not thinking of it will make it that much harder when it inevitably comes.’ Her husband wrote all the financial details, wrote her a step-by-step guide on how to receive the insurance money, discussed her future with her next spouse, and even wrote a letter to her future spouse, mentioning details that Anukriti describes were, “wonderful and necessary” indeed’.
3). Even wrote a book about him.
Anukriti, an aspiring author wrote a book about her sweetheart and proudly states that he’s the first reader.
4). She created a scrapbook.
Anukriti is said to have collected screenshots of the best, cheesiest, most random and meanest things we’ve ever said to each other [via email and online chat]. I printed them and interspersed them with our pictures over the years. ‘Both our birthdays fall on the 9th, so I wrote a few Top 9 lists: Top 9 Dates, Top 9 Naughty Times, the Top 9 Reasons I Love Him. The last one extended to 109 things’, she stated.
5). She organized a house party for his friends.
‘All of his friends and family came over to say a few things about him and to him. Nobody was allowed to cry. Sharing that time with those who cared about him just made sense. It was emotional, no doubt, and almost felt unbearable at times, but it let us be free of regrets—everyone got a chance to tell him how loved he was and always will be. It was a good chance for him to say the things he wanted to as well,’ she stated.
When everyone left, it was just the two of us. In that moment, it struck me that the next event with all these people would be his funeral, she added.
6). She kept reminding him that she loved him, and anything and everything that kept coming to her mind.
7). She made him wear his favourite shirts for several days so that she could smell him after he was long gone.
8). Celebrated all the holidays together.
Christmas, Diwali , Halloween, and Valentine’s Day all came early this year, she stated.
9). Organized a balcony picnic.
‘We lit some scented candles, laid down a soft mattress and some pillows, popped open a bottle of whiskey, put on some music, and gazed at the stars together. We enjoyed good food and some good, old-fashioned open-air sex’, Mehta stated.
10). Also took care of the logistics.
‘He taught me how to log onto his bank’s site and wrote me a step-by-step guide on how to access the insurance money after he’s gone. I’m a dreamer at heart with almost no sense of practicality. Luckily, he was quite the opposite’, she stated. They shared all details- financial information: account numbers, passwords, insurance details, wills, and debts.
Anukriti’s husband passed away peacefully later. The time they had in hand coupled with the memories they made, did help her to move along slowly. The positive attitude coupled with gratitude helped her realize what life actually is! We salute this woman for her wishful thinking and hope that things get better with time! Kudos!
Looks like she made a lifetime worth of memories, indeed!
Tales like these make us in believe in love, isn’t it?
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